I wish I knew this when I was younger. Boy, things would have been easier!

How do you feel when your friends or family use you as a sounding board and barely take a breath to stop and ask you how you are doing?

Or when ‘friends’ freeload at your home by the sea under the guise of wanting to spend time with you lol.

Or those clients that drain you for free council and advise in social settings instead of honoring your worth and booking a consult.

Or the parent that seems to criticise every choice you make, veiled in the coat of love.

Or that friend you do so much for who just never appreciates you.

Or when your youngster comes home crying because school friends behave horridly towards them.

We all have many different scenario’s that make us feel less than or that rob us of joy.

But it does not have to be that way.

We have the power to choose how we behave and feel about any given situation. No matter how another behaves, or treats you, or appreciates you, or not…YOU have the choice to allow their behaviour to affect you and define you.

If you know who you are, know your worth, and your self worth is not defined by the appreciation, acceptance or validation from another, then you will not get angry, disappointed, heartbroken by their choices and behaviour. You will not allow external factors to dictate your happiness and worth. You will not get sick from pent up hurt, frustration and anger.

I have found it to be so. The more I make it an intent to have no vested interest in a specific outcome, no expectation on another, I can just allow them to be them and the situation to be what it is, without it affecting me. And I can be me.

And the more you are grounded in who you are, the healthier your personal boundaries will be.

More tree quotes

“You don’t have to give every time. It’s okay for you to take some time for yourself, as well. In fact, if you want to have enough to give to others, you will need to take care of yourself first. A tree that refuses water and sunlight for itself can’t bear fruit for others.” – Emily Maroutian

“A tree has roots in the soil yet reaches to the sky. It tells us that in order to aspire we need to be grounded and that no matter how high we go it is from our roots that we draw sustenance.” – Wangari Maathai

“Storms make trees take deeper roots.” – Dolly Parton

“Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.” – Bruce Lee.

“Be like a tree and let the dead leaves drop.” – Rumi

And lastly this beautiful bit of advice from a tree…

Dear Friend,
Stand Tall and Proud
Sink your roots deeply into the Earth
Reflect the light of a greater source
Think long term
Go out on a limb
Remember your place among all living beings
Embrace with joy the changing seasons
For each yields its own abundance
The Energy and Birth of Spring
The Growth and Contentment of Summer
The Wisdom to let go of leaves in the Fall
The Rest and Quiet Renewal of Winter
Feel the wind and the sun
And delight in their presence
Look up at the moon that shines down upon you
And the mystery of the stars at night.
Seek nourishment from the good things in life
Simple pleasures
Earth, fresh air, light
Be content with your natural beauty
Drink plenty of water
Let your limbs sway and dance in the breezes
Be flexible
Remember your roots
Enjoy the view!

by Ilan Shamir.

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